Is it? Is it truly and simply unacceptable? If so, then something must be done.
Today’s audio (transcript below) will show you what needs to happen when something is too tough, too challenging or simply unacceptable. Also, the fact that there are things that are unacceptable in your life, pioints to a major key discovery spot.
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Ben
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Transcript
Hi, it’s Ben. How are you doing? I hope you’re having an awesome day. I wanted to share something with you today that I feel is, well, extremely important, imagine that, accepting the unacceptable. For people who struggle with anxiety and panic, I know it’s really the case for me, accepting the unacceptable is something that’s critically important. The reason why, is because if you think about it for a moment, inside a panic attack there’s something going on that you simply cannot accept.
When you think about going through your day feeling the anxiety that you’re feeling, there’s something that you’re simply not accepting. Whatever that thing is, and likely, it’s more than one thing, but whatever that thing is for you in the panic attack or in the general anxiety disorder just feeling that anxiety, whatever it is, there’s something in that. There’s something there that is completely unacceptable to you. There’s something that you do not want to accept, you refuse to accept and as a result you’re pushing it away. There’s often an element of denial in that as well.
What I’d like to help you do is move towards acceptance. Move towards accepting whatever it is that you feel that you cannot accept in this particular moment, when you’re experiencing the anxiety or experiencing the panic attacks. The best time to do this exercise that I’m going to show you, is when you’re actually experiencing some anxiety, maybe not necessarily when you’re experiencing a full blown panic attack because of course at that point everything is, all your bodily chemicals are running on flight or fright and the only thing you’re thinking of is, get me out of here or this has got to stop.
You’re just a little bit too much reactionary when you’re in a panic attack. When you’re experiencing just maybe some low grade anxiety or mid-grade anxiety or even a high grade anxiety but not a full blown panic attack, if you’re experiencing this right now then that’s perfect. If you’re not experiencing it, just listen to the rest of the audio and then listen to this again, at a time when you are experiencing anxiety.
The neat thing about this is, there are a couple of different levels to it, so let me take you through it. If you’re currently experiencing anxiety right now just sit down if you’re not already. No distractions around you, no TV, no radio, no sound in the background. Do your best to just find a relatively quiet place where you can sit. Feel what you’re feeling in this particular moment. Feel the anxiety symptoms that you’re feeling. I want you to close your eyes. Just close your eyes for a moment. I want you to say these words.
The thing that I’m not accepting in this moment is, and allow that to come to the surface. Allow that thing, whatever that thing is for you, to come to the surface. Allow that to just rise up. I want to give you a couple of examples that I had certainly had difficulty with and that this exercise is really helpful for me. I felt that other people had power over me and that was really, really something I just seemed, I just could not accept.
Once I moved to the place of learning how to accept that other people, in my perception, in my belief, had power over me. Then all of a sudden I realized well okay they actually don’t have power over me. For me, the thought of other people having power over me, over my life, was something I just, I could not accept. It was not okay with me. It just felt like I was coming from a place with complete and total powerlessness and there was nothing I could do about it. As a result I felt extremely anxious about that.
Maybe for you, there are specific life circumstances. Maybe it’s the fact that you feel extremely trapped in your job and you just want out. You feel like there’s nothing that you can do to change that situation. The first part of that is the fact that your current work situation is totally unacceptable to you. You can’t seem to accept how difficult it is or how challenging it is or how uncomfortable you feel when you’re there or when you think about it.
As a result, creates a great deal of stress, anxiety, possibly even panic attacks. As you learn to, as you move towards and as you ultimately end up accepting these things that you could not accept currently in this moment, what happens is, is that there’s an inner letting go. You don’t end up holding onto and resisting and pushing away from that thing that you cannot accept. As a result you end up accepting it. As you end up accepting this, ha, it is just a huge shifter. All of a sudden in your life, you end up feeling more calm, you end up feeling more relaxed and you realize that, okay yeah I was really pushing this thing away.
It’s that inner resistance that inner lack of acceptance that creates the anxiety within you. It creates that feeling of, oh I’m powerless in this situation, because that thing that you feel that you cannot accept is simply too big for you. It’s simply something you cannot cope with, something you cannot handle but it’s also really important for me to say and for you to understand, that you can cope with these things.
You can accept these things. You can deal with these things. The neatest part is, is that none of them are bigger or more powerful than you are. You just think they are. You just perceive that they are and you believe that they are. As a result, that’s your experience of it. As you bring yourself to this place of accepting the unacceptable, all of a sudden you end up feeling a lot more peace in regards to everything in your life.
I hope that’s helpful for you. I hope you’re having an awesome day and will talk to you soon.
Bye.
Ben
(p.s. make sure you check out our other most recent post - "The Secret magic Of Excuse #3")